Clare Faulkner 

Pyschosexual and relationship therapist




NLP is a collection of tools and techniques for understanding how people experience the world and how they think.  It originated in the early 1970's, and was born out of Richard Bandler and John Grinder's study of human psychology and behaviour in three areas: 

Neuro: our brain and neurological systems. We experience the world through our senses and our experiences get stored in our brains and bodies both consciously and unconsciously. These experiences affect our thoughts and our neurological systems, which in turn affect our behaviour. Our behaviour affects the way others respond to us, and hence the way in which we experience the world. 

Linguistic: we use language to help us to communicate with ourselves and each other. How we do this, and the words that we use, affect our relationships with other people and with ourselves.

Programming: comes from learning theory and from other areas of psychological research. Our programming comes from our experiences and from the thinking patterns that we habitually use because of the programming we receive from others, from society and from ourselves.

NLP allows me to connect with my clients, seeing the world from their perspective and working with their perceptions. There are no assumptions and no set protocols - every session is as individual as my client.

NLP gives me the communications tools I need to be able to work effectively, kindly and respectfully with my clients. It also offers strategies that clients can use to help them to identify unhelpful beliefs and behaviour patterns and replace them with helpful ones.